This post is mostly a reminder to myself first before anyone else. I struggled with this for a really long time, but now I feel like I’m starting to let go and ready to move on. It’s not 100% yet, but here are some tips and tricks I used to help me get through letting go of thoughts and bad vibes.
For the past few months, especially the past few days, I’ve been feeling like the whole world has been doing me wrong. That I was in the right and everyone else was in the wrong. I kept a grudge against people who I felt were wrong.
I knew what they did was wrong, however, and I clung to the fact that I was in the right. In a way, I learned to let go, and this was not easy because it took months to do this.
There was a blog post online that helped me so much, I bookmarked it for future reference. I’ll be reiterating some of the points Marelisa made in her blog post here.
Overall, here are some of the tips I got.
Focus on YOURSELF
Don’t look into the past anymore, it won’t get you anywhere. You can be hurt from your past, but learn from it and move on. Instead, look at the future.
Your well-being and mental health matters a lot. It’s what allows you to have productivity flowing in your life.
And instead of looking at the other person and how they handled situations, look at yourself. What could you have done differently to avoid the situation?
“Blessed is he whose own faults keep him busy.” -‘Ali ibn abi Talib (R.A)
Go busy yourself, if you have time to re-run thoughts in your head, you have time to do something productive. Go exercise, learn to cook, learn a new language, or something to stimulate your mind.
Different people have different perspectives
We, as humans, are so unique. We all have different backgrounds, different minds, and different perspectives.
People have their own beliefs and interpret things in a different manner.
Some people have the ability to make a situation seem so dramatic when in reality, it wasn’t. If you are being bothered by comments or gestures from other people, then you need to re-evaluate your thinking.
The quote below explains how people interpret their own situations. Click on the link to learn more. She explains it very well.
As I explained in my post on Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), psychologist Albert Ellis–the father of REBT–argued that a person is not affected emotionally by what happens around them, but by their interpretation of what happened. In turn, our interpretations are formed by our beliefs.
Check yourself. Make excuses for others and don’t take things too personally.
Honestly, these types of people make lives difficult for everyone around them. You need to reboot your mind into thinking in a different way. If someone didn’t say “hi” back, don’t take it personally.
When we physically get hurt, we rest.
How come we don’t do this when we are mentally hurt?
Healing takes time and you need time to heal. What hurts you so much a day ago, won’t hurt you as much a year from then.
And it’s okay to not be okay. Let yourself feel the pain. Moving on too quickly will only cause it to boil up inside.
Take time off. Block that person/situation. You need time.
The world doesn’t owe you a Thing.
The world doesn’t owe you a thing. Stop pitying yourself and looking at the world as a cruel place that only hurts you.
Self-pity is the worst. Don’t pity yourself and don’t let others pity you.
There will always be people who dislike you. You can’t do anything about that and don’t bother to change it. It’s a waste of time. Again, going back to the first suggestion, focus on YOU.
Hope these tips help you out! Remember to change your way of thinking. It’s all in your head!
Good luck xx